Childhood Trauma Therapy, CPTSD & Emotional Neglect (CEN)
Online Trauma Therapy in the UK & Europe
You should feel successful. But you don’t.
You’ve upgraded your life in so many ways. Your job, your postcode, even your wine.
But on the inside, it’s a different story. You still don’t feel good enough (not that anyone would know).
You’re fine…
Only you’re still googling 'what’s wrong with me?'
Because every shitty day feels like a disaster,
every snarky email from your boss plays on repeat,
and everywhere you go you still wonder why you don’t feel good enough.
In many ways, you’ve made it.
You swapped your Jacob’s Creek for Sancerre.
You have a reasonably interesting job and a significant other who loves you enough to traipse round shrines in Kamakura and look interested.
You have friends who indulge your brunch habits (and wait for you to take photos first).
Your Ocado shop is worlds away from the crispy pancakes and super noodles you grew up on.
No orange Panda Pops for you.
It’s San Pellegrino now, darling.
Your life is pretty good and anyone without access to your phone would be fooled.
But your stupidly long screen time, the multiple therapists you follow on IG (and have tried without success), the half-finished self-help books would tell a different story.
(The less said about 'Let Them', the better.)
You’ve dabbled in trauma podcasts, cold water plunges, meditation retreats, yoga and breathwork.
You tell yourself 'you’re fine' but it’s a mantra you don’t really believe.
So your family are 'complicated'. Isn’t everybody’s?
Other people had it far worse, am I right?
You didn’t go hungry.
You had piano lessons, holidays, plenty to eat.
Move along, nothing to see here.
No beatings.
No going to bed hungry.
No holes in your clothes.
And yet it’s been easier to upgrade your life than how you feel about yourself.
Inside you still feel like a fraud.
Like you’re trying to hide a dark secret.
You still don’t feel like a grown-up.
You still feel lost.
You still feel like something is perpetually missing.
You’re still afraid that nobody really likes you.
Anyway, you’re fine now.
(Except when you’re not.)
So what now?
What do you actually do about it?
Hi, I’m Sarah!
I’m a UKCP registered Psychotherapist with a Masters level training in Psychotherapy and I’ve spent the last 15 years helping people unsure of their trauma status, recover from childhood trauma.
I love working with the ‘I should be smart enough to have figured this out by myself’ people who are somewhat suspicious of therapists (having had at least 3 who did basically nothing).
They tell themselves it wasn’t really that bad because they were not beaten on a daily basis and did indeed go on multiple holidays as a child, while simultaneously wondering whether the black hole inside them is ever going to go away.
I really enjoy helping people figure out where and why they’re stuck and giving clear instructions on how to move forward to where they actually want to be.
Because who wants to figure things out for themselves when that’s already cost you several decades of heartache and confusion?!
